Perceptions of Marriage; Men vs Women
here comes the Bride
Here Comes the Bride…
Etc etc
You probably got scared when you read the above title, and thought Boyce voice was taking over from “Dear Christine” and becoming a marriage counselor.
But for the edification of readers female especially, I thought I would blog about the perceptions men have of marriage in contrast to women’s.
For women the entire concept of marriage is an event of great jollification and jubilation, for men its apprehension and uncertainty.
The difference starts from the engagement.
When a woman gets engaged its joy joy joy to the world for both her and her girlfriends are excited too “lemme see the ring” they exclaim “ooh that’s beautiful…it looks expensive!” and they say that like its a good thing.
When a man tells us buddies he is getting married the first response is”oh? are you sure?” and theres the tone of uncertaincy that dominates the conversation, we dont get excited and start jumping up and down.
We don’t view the expensive engagement ring with any great joy either because we have to buy it.
(Why do you need an engagement ring anyway why can’t you just give one wedding ring and call that a day?)
Men’s true perception of marriage is reflected in the nick names they have for the event , “getting hitched” that does not sound like a good thing. on the day of wedding we say our buddy “gine down” today, that term could also be used at a funeral like “gine down” in a hole. You see my point?
The last and most damming proof of a mans perception of marriage is the term his friend is going to get his “neck pop” today, I believe that is what happens when you are hung by the neck untill dead.
I could rest my case here but I wouldn’t.
(Whispering font) Boyce voice will continue more on marriage at a later date, wifey just came in so I must log off before she sees this……
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September 1st, 2008 at 7:55 am
must have something to do with how the difference sexes are raised nuh
September 1st, 2008 at 7:49 pm
Well there are some guys who jump for joy at the thought of being married…..that is until they hook up with their male friends. I have a friend who has been married he is now divorced & he tells me all the time that the only people who want to get married are people who have never been married!!! LOL LOL I think he may be right women have been socialised to think that being married is respectable. I am one who doesnt give two hoops about marriage as far as I am concerned if I do get married I want a prenup and dont tell me no shite about that aint love I have to protect my investments cause no man aint gin come and tie up my head with all sorts of rose petals then 1 year down the line he dealing with some young girl, then want separation which could lead to divorce then tell me he want half of what I work so hard far. I would do what I got to do and sit down in dodds calm calm calm and start a church lup in there too ol lol lmao lmao
September 2nd, 2008 at 7:40 pm
Peter I’m going to stick my neck out and hope it doesn’t get “pop” by my female counterparts and say that we women have to take a lot of the blame for men’s dismal outlook on getting married.
The fact is that many of us either throw away the tiara/ halo we wear on the wedding day and become all types of freaks after we get “de ring pun we finga”.
Some of us have been control freaks - because we move out from home earlier than me we think we are better at running the finances.
Other become freaks in bed. That is, most of the time when the husband wants to have sex we women have some “freaky” excuse to get out of it.
Then there is the fashion freak that knows that the man was broke when we married them but still we want to get our hair, nails and toes done every other week and cuss the men when they can’t deliver on our extravagances.
I don’t blame the men… although, men must admit that some of your are straight up freaks.
That is why I love Operation Marriage Restore and look forward to their cruise on the MV Harbour Master on November 1 (shameless plug).
Board it as a freak and get off freak-free!
(By the way, I got tickets to sell lol - another shameless, unadulterated plug!)
September 3rd, 2008 at 8:57 am
I DO
These two words commits a MAN to torment or to biss
For something so seriously engaging
To think that 2 little words
can commit a man for the rest
of his life to years or torment or months of bliss is a numbing thought
Funny enough I was thinking about this subject this morning even before I read this thread and this is why I have responded
September 3rd, 2008 at 9:10 am
MORE ABOUT MARRIAGE
Some years ago it dawned on me that Marriage is a financial arrangement
Money figures very prominently in life and marriage is an aspect of life that is very much iinfluenced by money. Love is not neccessarily a crucial factor in this marriage thing and when we examined the situation we can agree that many marriages depend on what you bring to the table financially. Women with their damsel in distress mentality feel that men are to provide for them , that men are the ones to bear the brunt in everything. Women’s fantasies include marrying a millionaire. If a man does not meet that profile he is merely tolerated not really loved.
September 3rd, 2008 at 3:05 pm
MORE ON MARRIAGE
I AM LISTENING TO VOB at the moment -guess what is playing —–GWEN GUTHRIE singing these words –
-no Romance without finance
you gotta have a JOB
if yuh wanna be wid me
etc.
September 8th, 2008 at 6:18 am
The level of this discourse on this marriage post has gone to a next level,
Stephanie don’t mek no sport at all with her prenup agreement, I don’t have a problem with signing a prenup unless you have more money than me, then it stands between us having true love.. As asiba says “no romance without finance” which ties into my previous whore post…
That was impressive transition Lyrical lava merging your comment into an endorsement for your marriage event; you should work in marketing…
September 10th, 2008 at 5:44 pm
STRAIGHT OUT OF PETER’S HANDBOOK-EH LYRICAL LAVA ????